Images and stories of the bombardment and invasion of Ukraine by Russian troops are scary for adults, and could be traumatizing for children.

“It is important that parents and caregivers, as trusted adults, help alleviate children’s fears by being honest, open, and supportive,” said Elizabeth Jacobson, NewBridge Services director of Community Response and Education. “Even adults might be struggling to make sense of it all, and opening the lines of communication, validating children’s feelings, and figuring out ways to cope together can be beneficial for everyone.”

Elizabeth offered the following tips to parents an how best to talk to their kids about war:

Start a conversation by asking your child if they heard about what’s happening in Ukraine. If they say yes, ask them where they got the information (television, websites, social media, conversations at school, etc…) Older kids will likely have heard more details and perhaps seen disturbing images. Elementary school-age children may be unaware of the crisis, or have only an inkling of it.
Give your child your full attention, and be sure to keep the conversation age-appropriate. Maintain a calm demeanor, and don’t overshare your own fears.
Find out what they understand about the situation, and gently correct inaccuracies.
Reassure them that while this is scary, it is not happening in your community and that they are safe.
Whatever their feelings or concerns, acknowledge them as valid. Assure them good people are trying to help the residents of Ukraine.
Invite them to ask questions and voice concerns when they are worried.
Talk about how you as a family can support the Ukrainian residents affected by war. You may want to participate in a candlelight vigil or donate to a reputable nonprofit.
Focus on all the goodness in the world, and the outpouring of support.
Stick to routines, and add some simple stress-reducing practices to your day. For example, have the family do a breath meditation, taking deep belly breaths and exhaling slowly. Here’s a Sand Castle Meditation to help kids (and adults) relax.
Have their days end on a positive note, reading a favorite book or playing a game they like. And remember, nobody is really ever too old to be tucked in, at least once in a while.
Continue to check in on your child regularly, and keep an eye out for signs of anxiety, such as stomach pains, headaches, nightmares or difficulties sleeping. If those persist, you may need to seek professional help.

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network offers more detailed guidance on helping children handle news of war here. Contact NewBridge Services at (973) 316-9333 to make an appointment with a counselor specialized in working with children.